We Talk a Lot About the Harm of Social Media… But What About the Help?

This blog was written by Faye McCarter. Faye is a recent graduate in Psychology and Counselling, whose work explores how social media can support mental health and wellbeing

If you’ve read anything about social media and mental health lately, you’ll notice a familiar pattern. The conversation is dominated by concern: addiction, misinformation, negative self-comparison, and the vulnerability of younger users. Social media, we’re often told, is something happening to us something quietly shaping our thoughts, behaviours, and wellbeing in largely harmful ways. So strong are these concerns the UK Government has now announced a ban on social media use for under-16s. But this raises a deeper question: when we talk about “social media”, what exactly are we banning – and how are people really using these platforms in their everyday lives?

While those concerns are valid, they only tell part of the story.

What often gets overlooked is something much more ordinary, and much more human: people aren’t just passively consuming what they see online. They’re interpreting it, questioning it, and perhaps most importantly using it in ways that shape how they understand themselves and others.

A recent study set out to explore exactly that. Rather than measuring outcomes or focusing purely on risk, it asked a more grounded question: what is it like to engage with mental health content on social media in everyday life? What emerged was not a story of passive scrolling or blind acceptance, but one of active, reflective, and often meaningful engagement.

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One of the most striking aspects of this engagement was something many of us will recognise instantly: the moment of “that’s so me.” Participants described coming across posts that seemed to articulate feelings or experiences they had never quite been able to put into words. These moments weren’t trivial they were described as reassuring, grounding, and, at times, deeply comforting. One participant explained that it made them feel “a little bit less alone,” while another described the sense of community it created.

In a world where loneliness is increasingly recognised as a major issue, these moments matter. They suggest that social media can offer a kind of everyday validation a reminder that our experiences are not as isolated as they might feel. Even if these connections are brief, they still shape how people see themselves in relation to others.

But the value of this content doesn’t stop at recognition. It also plays a subtle but important role in reducing stigma around mental health. By repeatedly encountering open conversations about anxiety, trauma, or emotional regulation, participants described these topics as feeling more “normal” and easier to talk about. Psychological language once confined to therapy rooms has become part of everyday conversation.

This matters because stigma doesn’t just exist at a societal level it exists in how comfortable we feel acknowledging our own experiences. When mental health concepts become familiar and widely shared, they can feel less intimidating, less clinical, and more accessible. In this way, social media can help shift mental health from something hidden or misunderstood into something that can be openly explored and discussed.

Importantly, this shift also changes how people talk about their own needs.

Participants described how engaging with “pop-psychology” content gave them the language to explain what they were feeling whether that was recognising unhealthy patterns, setting boundaries, or understanding emotional responses. This wasn’t about labelling themselves for the sake of it; it was about making sense of experiences that previously felt confusing or difficult to articulate.

And that had real-world consequences.

With that language came a sense of confidence and self-advocacy. One participant described being better able to advocate for themselves when speaking to their GP, suggesting that exposure to this content helped bridge the gap between internal experience and professional support.

This challenges a common assumption that social media replaces or undermines formal mental health care. Instead, the findings suggest something quite different: it can act as a stepping stone toward help-seeking, equipping people with the understanding and confidence they need to engage with professional support more effectively.

At the same time, people weren’t simply absorbing everything they saw. Participants were aware of the limitations of online content and described themselves as selective and critical in how they engaged. They questioned sources, compared perspectives, and chose to follow creators they perceived as credible, often favouring those with professional expertise.

This challenges the idea that users are passive or easily misled. Instead, they appear to be navigating a complex information landscape with thought, judgement, and personal awareness.

Of course, this doesn’t mean the experience is entirely positive. Participants also described feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of content and, at times, confused by conflicting advice. The constant stream of information often offering different interpretations of similar experiences could create uncertainty and fatigue.

But even here, the story is not one of helplessness. People described actively managing this tension by setting boundaries taking breaks, limiting engagement, and recognising that there is “only so much you can do for your mental health in one day.”

What emerges, then, is not a simple narrative of harm or benefit, but something far more complex. Social media is experienced as both supportive and overwhelming, empowering and uncertain. These elements don’t cancel each other out they coexist, shaping an experience that is dynamic, negotiated, and deeply personal.

This is where the broader conversation needs to shift.

Instead of asking whether social media is good or bad for mental health, we might ask a more useful question: what are people actually doing with it? Because when we look more closely, we see individuals engaging in acts of recognition, reflection, learning, and self-expression. We see people building the language to describe their experiences, challenging stigma, and, in some cases, taking meaningful steps toward seeking support.

By focusing only on the risks, we risk overlooking these quieter but important processes.

Social media is not a perfect space. It contains misinformation, contradictions, and pressures. But it is also, undeniably, part of everyday life. And within that everydayness, people are not simply being shaped by it they are actively shaping how it fits into their lives.

Perhaps the reality is not that social media is inherently harmful or helpful, but that it is a tool one that people are learning to navigate, interpret, and use in ways that reflect their own needs, experiences, and understanding.

And when we start to see it that way, the conversation becomes not just more balanced but more meaningful.